Pet Loss and Children III
The best way to help a child overcome a loss of a beloved pet is to talk to them about it. Before a death, when the animal is sick or very old, spend time talking with your child about his/her feelings. Tell them what will happen when the pet dies. Be honest, open and frank with them. Don’t try to hide anything in trying to protect them from reality, it will just prolong the pain. If possible, let your child say “good-bye” to the 4-legged family member before the pet dies. Let your child know that it is very normal to grieve, to feel sad and to miss the family pet. Help them to clearly understand that death is a part of life, and it is not their fault the pet will die.
The death of a pet may bring back the memory of other painful losses or upsetting events. A child who may seem to be overwhelmed with grief and one who is not about to function in their daily routines may benefit from talking with a professional adolescent psychiatrist or other qualified mental health advisor.
You may choose to have the child help you place the pet in a Pet Casket, and then help you bury it in your backyard in or in a pet cemetery. This will allow them to see their beloved friend properly put to rest. It may also help them to gain some closure knowing the pet is resting in peace. They won’t need to wonder where the pet went after he/she died, and may help them not to wonder if the pet will be coming back.