11:28 4 January 2010

Go Ahead, It’s Okay to Grieve

Homeward Bound Keepsake urn

At some point every human being will lose someone they love and will enter into grieving.  It is a very normal, necessary process.  It doesn’t matter if the loved one is a child, spouse, dear friend, or even a 4-legged beloved companion animal, the grief is still very real.

While it may be tempting to  deny grieving to avoid the pain, it is much healthier to accept these feelings as normal and to work through them in an intentional way.  The following are steps you can take to work through the pain of grieving and get on with the next phase of your life:

1. Learn to accept that your loss is real.   Accept that your loved one is really gone.
2. Make it Okay to feel the pain.  This pain can be both physical and emotional.  Denying this pain will only prolong your grieving.
3. Adjust to your new life without your loved one.  Include new people and activities to help fill the void left by the loss.
4. Find a safe place in your heart for your loved one and move on.  Learn to cherish a memory without letting it control you.  The place you decide to keep your memories is up to you.  You can tuck your loved one into your heart, keep a box of photos somewhere special, or even carry your loved one’s ashes close to your heart in a beautiful piece of Pet Memorial Jewelry.
5. For many, the hardest part about a loss is knowing what to do with the love you have for your pet.  Remind yourself that you don’t have to stop loving him/her just because they are not with you.  When a memory of your beloved pet  pops up, send a loving
                                                                                                     thought and know that you are loved in return.  You may find comfort in this and can find strength to continue in your journey of life.

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